Everything has a tax


“In this world, nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.” – Benjamin Franklin.

The inevitability of taxes goes beyond the percentage of our earnings we fork over to the government. Everything we do, create, achieve or acquire comes at a cost to us. Sometimes the cost is obvious, sometimes it is more hidden. But nothing comes for free.

Say you get a promotion at work. This means more money, more stature in the organization, and more people reporting to you. What could be better, right? But look closely and you’ll see that it also means longer working hours and more pressure to deliver. Your performance will come under more scrutiny, and the bar for future success will be higher.

Say you meet the man or woman of your dreams. You have fantastic chemistry, camaraderie, and compatibility. You enter into a committed long-term relationship. Happy days lie ahead, right?

But what’s the tax? In a serious relationship, you lose some of your independence. You’ll need to inform your significant other before making any impromptu plans. Every decision will need to be discussed and debated, from small ones like what to eat for dinner or which painting to hang on the wall, to the big ones like which city to live in or how many children to have. These never-ending discussions and spending so much time with the same person will cause conflicts.

Say you buy a swanky new house, with 4 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms, and a spacious living room. It’s in a great neighborhood too. Now you can look forward to a lifetime of stability, right?

But there’s always a tax. For starters, there’s literally property tax. To keep up with the payments for a long-term loan, you’ll be obligated to earn high levels of income for decades. Then there’s the constant maintenance work from painting the walls to fixing the plumbing to cleaning the carpets.

Say you go on a nice vacation where you have many memorable experiences. But when you get back home, work is piled up and will leave you feeling exhausted.

Say you’re a comedian or musician or YouTuber, and you build a large fan following. But fame brings with it a loss of privacy. Anything you say or do will be in the public domain and can be used against you. The more successful you get, the more fans you acquire, the more you’ll be hounded and photographed. You won’t be able to enjoy a moment of peace and solitude.

The examples are endless. You pay a tax on everything you get, without exception. There’s a flip side to every coin, a thorn in every rose, a shadow behind the light. Every medicine has its side effects. To gain something, you must lose something.

And that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with that. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t strive to achieve anything or make progress towards your aspirations. You just have to understand what it will cost you, and what you have to sacrifice.

So next time you embark on any endeavor, take a moment to ask yourself what is the tax you’ll need to pay. If you can accept that tax, then go for it. But sometimes, you might find that what you want to do will cost you too much. If the trade-off no longer feels worthwhile, then reevaluate your choices. No harm in changing your mind. The wisest amongst us have always been open to a course correction.

In the end, you are the author of your own life.  You can pursue any goal you choose to, but you have to be willing to pay the tax for it.

“He who wants a rose must respect the thorn.” – Persian Proverb.

Time: The Currency of Life


The average human lifespan is around 900 months. If you’re reading this, you’ve probably already used up a sizable proportion of those months. Our entire lives are made up of finite blocks of time. Time is our most scarce and most precious resource. And it dwindles with every passing day.

Time is also a great equalizer. No one has any more or less of it than anyone else. It doesn’t matter who you are, where you live, and how privileged or disadvantaged your life is. We all have the same 24 hours in a day and 365 days in a year.

We use time as a currency for trade. When you take a job or any form of paid employment, you’re basically exchanging time for money. You work for a certain number of hours in a day, and in return, you get paid a certain amount of money.

Time is also a means for showing affection. The most valuable gift you can give someone you care about is your undivided attention i.e. your time. To master any skill or achieve success in any field, it takes hours and hours of practice. Whether it’s money or success or affection, you can have these things, if you’re willing to spend enough time on them.

But our time on this planet is limited. It’s important to acknowledge that when you do one thing, it is at the expense of doing something else. There’s always a trade-off you’re making, whether you’re aware of it or not. So start by at least being cognizant of what you’re choosing to do with your most cherished possession: your time.

Many people try to make the most of their time by using efficient time management techniques to accomplish as much as they possibly can. But such relentless efficiency rarely leads to satisfaction and contentment. This is because no matter how much you do, there’s still more left to do. There’s always the next thing, and the thing after that, and the thing after that. It never ends.

This approach of efficiency and productivity neglects a cold, hard truth: you will die one day, having not done many things you wanted to do. The finite nature of our lives means that several things will necessarily be left undone. That’s why the choices we make are vital.

Instead of trying to do it all, channel your time and energy into the things that truly matter to you. A life spent chasing the mythical state of being able to do everything is less meaningful than a life of focusing on a few things that count. So spend more of your limited time on things that make you happy, and less on things that don’t. But this requires a deeper self-awareness to discern what those things are.

Some people would like to spend most of their time with family and friends. They are nourished by a sense of community. Some find solace in travel and adventure. Some are happiest while pursuing their interests and hobbies. Some come alive when they’re playing a game or sport.

There are as many possibilities as there are humans on this planet. Your preferences can also change over the years. The key is to look inward and be honest with yourself. What brings you joy? What makes your life feel meaningful?

As the years roll by, they are gone forever and will never come back to us. Time is not a renewable resource, and one day, you will run out of it. So value your time. And enjoy it while it lasts.

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

— Mary Oliver.