Favorite Quotations

Below is a listed of some of my favorite quotations, sayings, phrases, lines from songs, etc that I have heard over the years. This list is not ordered and not exhaustive. It’ll continue to expand over time.

• To be happy, make others happy
• Joyfully participate in the sorrows of the world
• Be kind as everyone is fighting a tough battle
• Laughter is the key that unlocks the door to happiness
• Follow your bliss and doors will open where there were just walls
• Leap and the net will appear
• Become who you are
• And this too shall pass
• You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one. I hope someday you'll join us and the world can live as one.
• If you can meet triumph and disaster and treat both those impostors just the same
• There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
• The nature of the rain is the same and yet it produces thorns in the marshes and flowers in the gardens
• The soul inside me no man can degrade
• If a problem can be solved, why worry about it? If a problem can't be solved, why worry about it?
• Fear is a path to the dark side of the force
• I’m grateful for all my troubles as they have made me strong and more able to deal with those that are still to come
• You can't fail if you never stop trying
• Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die tomorrow.
• Victory belongs to the most persevering.
• It’s not the situation that matters it’s how you react to the situation
• Courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to move beyond it
• The darkest hour of night comes just before dawn
• We are all in the gutter, the only difference is that some of us are looking at the stars
• Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, its about dancing in the rain
• Success is how high you bounce after you hit the bottom
• Failure is nothing but the prequel to success
• In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.
• Never under-estimate the power of positive thinking
• Live out of your imagination, not your history
• Dream on Till your dream comes true
• Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars.
• I ain’t gonna be just a face in the crowd, your gonna hear my voice when I shout it loud
• I get knocked down, but I get up again; your never gonna keep me down
• Attitude is Everything
• Dream big but dream with your eyes open
• Life's simple: make choices, don't look back
• Life is a journey, not a destination. The pleasure is always in the chase. The hunt is sweeter than the kill
• Where there was dark, now there's light; Where there was pain now there's joy; Where there was weakness I found my strength
• A friend is one who knows all about you, but still likes you
• 2 mice fell in a bucket of cream. First mouse gave up and drowned. Second mouse fought hard, turned butter to cream and got out
• A new day will dawn for those who stand long and the forest will echo with laughter
• The race is long and in the end it is only with yourself
• We may lose or we may win but we will never be here again.

The Hermit

Suraj stopped to catch his breath. With the palm of his hand, he wiped the perspiration from his forehead. He brought out a water bottle from his backpack and took a gulp.

He had reached the end of the trail. The forest loomed all around him, dense with trees, bushes, vegetation of all shapes and sizes. The brown dirt on the ground below seeped into his shoes. His gaze swept across the forest, searching for a settlement for huts. One name echoed inside his mind. Zubin.

Zubin. The warrior whose name was taken by the locals in whispers, with no small measure of respect. The stories of his feats were folklore. Suraj had to find Zubin. He had to be trained by the master swordsman. He had traveled far and wide in his hunt, with no luck yet.

He sat down near the trunk of a large oak tree whose branches spread everywhere. He closed his eyes. The images of the rape were etched permanently in his memory. Suraj was eighteen at the time. His sister, Sapna, was twenty one, and had a fully developed body. It was just before midnight. They had gone to buy light bulbs for the home. Thiers was s safe neighborhood. Or so they had believed.

Four men jumped them from behind. Street thugs with unshaven faces and shabby clothes. Suraj remembered those faces well. They overpowered him easily with few hard punches. One of them held him down to the floor. He was almost unconscious. If only he had been fully unconscious. Because the scene that he witnessed after that left a scar that years of therapy couldn’t begin to heal.

Sapna’s high pitched screams pierced his ears. They tore her shirt, yanked off her jeans, ripped open her underwear. All the while, Suraj lay helpless, pinned to the ground, tasting blood in his mouth. One by one, they violated her on the ground. Penetrating her delicate body again and again. After the first one, her screams turned to whimpers and then died entirely. Suraj could still see the look on his sister’s face. Emptiness. Her eyes stared into space, sightless. Her complexion drained of all its color. She looked like a ghost.

Suraj stood up and shuddered. He tore off a nearby leaf and crumpled it inside his fist. His breathing became strained. Such visions of that fateful night haunted him. He had been too weak to defend his sister’s honor.

From that day, he had sworn to learn to defend himself against the evil that he knew existed in the world around him. He worked out at the gym with fanatic regularity. He made his body lean and muscular. He learnt Karate, Judo and Taekwondo. He participated in kick-boxing competitions, and frequently won. But still, Suraj was not satisfied.

He had heard some of his senior martial arts instructors mention the name Zubin. They had heard second-hand stories. Zubin was a warrior with no equal. Once, he had faced fifty opponents at a time and had not been defeated. During his travels to Japan, he had battled a reputed samurai fighter. Zubin had disarmed the samurai before he could even draw his sword.

Suraj knew instantly that he had to seek out this mysterious Zubin. Only a warrior of such caliber could train him adequately. Suraj would settle for nothing less.

Once committed to this single-minded goal, Suraj left no stone unturned. He asked every instructor, every fighter he knew about Zubin. One led him to another. His search led him to that forest where it was believed that Zubin lived as a hermit, in a small hut by himself.

Suraj had asked some locals about the location of Zubin’s hut. Their directions were vague and conflicting. After getting lost several times, Suraj had arrived at that point.

He wore his backpack on his shoulders and walked on. He checked his watch. It was noon. He had trekked since seven in the morning. He looked around him. Suddenly, his pulse quickened.

Up ahead to the left, he caught sight of a group of huts. He scrambled towards them. There were eight huts arranged in a neat grid. Each had stone walls and a slanting roof with square tiles. Suraj saw an old woman peering out from a window. He asked her if she knew where a warrior named Zubin lived. She stared at him for a long moment and then pointed towards a thatched roof in the distance, barely visible between the trees. Before he could thank her, she had slammed the window shut and disappeared from view.

Suraj jogged to the hut she had indicated. He went to the door. It was an antique wooden door, painted dull grey. There was no doorbell or handle. He rapped his knuckles on the door. No answer. Without warning, he felt the sting of a cold blade press against his shoulder.

Suraj considered pushing the blade away and spinning around, as he had learnt to in his martial arts training. But he thought better off it.

A hoarse voice behind him demanded, “Your business?”

“I have come to talk to the warrior, Zubin. I want to train with him.”

A brief pause, before the voice responded. “I don’t teach. Go away.” The blade lowered and the man stepped past Suraj into the hut and closed the door. This movement happened so fast that Suraj didn’t catch a look at him.

Suraj knocked again.

“Go away I said.” The voice commanded.

“If I could only talk to you for a minute…” Suraj began.

The door cracked open an inch. Two unblinking white eyes bore into Suraj. “Don’t disturb me again.” The door slammed shut.

Suraj stepped back. He knew he had found the right man, the one teacher who might make him into a real warrior. He had spent too much energy in his search to go back. Filled with a sense of anticipation, Suraj decided to sit outside the hut, ten feet from the door, and wait. He would wait until Zubin accepted him as a student. Or until he died outside that hut.

An hour passed. Two hours. Six hours. His body became stiff. He could no longer feel his arms or legs. Night fell in the forest. Suraj remained unmoved. A fit of shivering came and went. He grew drowsy. Sometime in the night, his head fell back and he toppled over. He awakened and painfully forced himself back into sitting position.

Morning came and he became hungry and thirsty, but the feeling passed. Memories from the rape flashed in his head. Sapna’s lifeless face crystallized before his mind’s eye. He sat up straight, his resolve turned to steel. Night came again. His tongue ran across parched lips in search of water or even saliva.

The second morning, Suraj wasn’t sure he could move if he wanted too. Time ceased to have meaning. He drifted in and out of awareness.

A voice echoed from somewhere above. “Alright, you win.”

The voice grew louder. “Get up. I don’t want your corpse creating a stink.”

Suraj tried to rise, but his limbs wouldn’t respond. A bucket of water was emptied upon him. He couldn’t tell if the water was hot or cold. He looked up to see the expressionless face of Zubin. The cheeks were hollow, the skin wrinkled. A black scar smeared across the forehead. A thick heap of snow-white hair covered his head. It was the face of a man who had been everywhere and experienced everything.

Two powerful arms lifted Suraj and ushered him inside the hut. It was a dark little room. One small cot in the corner. A pair of low stools constituted the only other furniture.

“Sit there.” Zubin pointed towards the wooden fireplace. Over the fire, hung a large iron cooking pot. Inside it was a steaming vegetable soup.

“Take some.” Zubin indicated some bowls lying on the floor. Suraj slowly ingested each spoonful of soup as though he had never eaten before. When he finished, Zubin told him to wash the bowls in the sink.

The old warrior studied Suraj. “I may agree to teach you. We’ll see…” He showed Suraj the supply of grains and vegetables. He pointed to the toilet. He told Suraj that he was to clean the toilet, sweep the floors, make the food, wash the clothes and serve Zubin in every which way. Suraj nodded.

Over the next few days, Suraj did his best to please the quiet warrior. Zubin didn’t communicate much, apart from an occasional grunt when he tasted his soup, which Suraj prepared. Without any comment or complaint, Suraj performed all the chores asked of him. He slept on the cold floor of the hut every night.

Two weeks passed and Zubin said nothing about training him. Suraj grew impatient. He addressed the warrior one day after his meal. “Master Zubin…”

“Not Master Zubin. Just Zubin.”

Suraj nodded. “I’ve done my best with my duties. I hope they have been to your satisfaction.”

Zubin grunted.

“I need to know whether I have earned the right to train with you.”

Zubin made no attempt to reply. His gaze penetrated Suraj in a way that made the hair on his skin stand up.

Suraj cleared his throat. “I cannot delay so much. I have to learn to fight.”

Zubin continued to glare at him.

Suraj pleaded with his eyes. “You promised to teach...”

“I promised nothing.” Zubin retorted. He stormed out of the hut.

Suraj clenched his fist. What a crazed manic. Was this guy really a master warrior? Or were all those stories fiction? Was he wasting his time there?

Suraj decided to stay the night and re-think the situation in the morning. That night, Suraj was awakened with a blow to his head. He rubbed his head, and looked up to see Zubin standing over him, holding a wooden staff. The man’s face was blank, with no trace of anger or hostility. He turned calmly and returned to his cot.

Suraj stared after him. So Zubin was insane then. Suraj considered gathering his things and leaving. But it was already night. He would think more clearly in the morning.

As soon as Suraj drifted off, whack. Pain in his midriff. He woke in panic, looking around. He glimpsed Zubin’s back as the old man trailed off.

Suraj slipped back into an uneasy sleep. Just before dawn, he received another thumping strike and a new bruise, this time on his knees. Suraj stood up and stretched out. He took some cold water and numbed his aching body. He walked around the forest.

The sun ascended above the trees, illuminating the sky. Suraj looked at the bright yellow orb and thought of his sister and of her violent attackers. He decided to stay at Zubin’s hut.

That day and every day for the next two weeks, each time Suraj was distracted or preoccupied with some thought, Zubin would smack him. The strikes were quick and silent as the wind. Suraj tried to defend himself but the old man was gone before he could even react. Pain became such a constant for Suraj that he forgot what it felt like to be free of it.

Frequently, Suraj wanted to end the abuse. What the hell was going on? He was there to train to fight. Not to be beaten like a stray dog. He reminded himself that he was not a prisoner. He could pack up and walk out anytime.

But something kept him there. Call it a hunch. Maybe this was a kind of initiation ritual that all potential students had to go through. Maybe it was a test of sincerity. Or maybe the man was stark, raving mad.

Day and night, the blows rained down. Ten, twenty, even thirty every day. Meanwhile, Suraj continued with his chores and slept with his eyes half open. He never knew when or where the next strike would come. He tried to hit back but the old warrior was too quick for him.

Two nights later, Suraj jerked awake without knowing why. He looked around and didn’t see a thing. An idea occurred to him.

Suraj stood up and tip-toed to Zubin’s cot, feeling his way through the darkness. It was time to turn the tables. He stood over the cot and silenced his breathing. He lifted his hands, grinning at the anticipated surprise he was about to cause. With full force he brought both his hands down.

He struck the meshed frame of an empty cot. He cursed under his breath. Where was Zubin?

His hair stood on the back of his neck. He started to swing around but it was too late. The tip of the wooden staff landed heavily on his buttocks. Zubin stood there, his eyes glaring down at him. Suraj cringed and contorted his face. He massaged his behind and crawled back to his spot on the floor.

Suraj didn’t sleep the rest of the night. Even in daylight, he felt a constant state of nervous alertness, expecting a blow at any moment.

Then it happened. One evening, Suraj was stirring the soup in the cooking pot. Without thinking or even realizing it, his arm abruptly lifted the steel lid of the pot above his head. A metallic clang sounded out as the wooden staff came whipping down on the lid. Suraj was himself surprised at his action. He spun around to see a trace of a smile on Zubin’s lips.

Then it happened again. And again. Whenever Zubin came to strike him, Suraj would find himself raising an object or his arm to fend off the blow or ducking out of the way. He never thought about it. It just happened.

Suraj woke up one day before dawn and swiftly rolled over to one side. The staff came down on the floor at the exact spot where he lay a moment ago. Suraj jumped to his feet. His eyes met those of the master.

A broad smile spread across Zubin’s face.

Emboldened, Suraj asked. “Does this mean my training can begin?”

“No,” Zubin replied. “Your training is over.”

Only then did Suraj grasp the scope of the lesson that he had been given. All those attacks, all the time the master had been teaching him to move instinctively, to react without thinking, at speeds that the mind cannot process, to stay alert at all times and not get lost in random thoughts. There was method behind Zubin’s apparent madness.

Suraj smiled. He gathered his belongings and prepared to leave. He stood outside the hut and bowed down on his knees before the master, in a gesture of gratitude. Zubin brought his staff down and planted one final, delicate blow on Suraj’s shoulder blades. Without a word, the master turned and disappeared inside his hut.

Nobody Cares

Marco leaned back on his reclining, leather chair and exhaled. It had been an action-packed summer for the Law Offices of Peterson & Peterson. From real estate disputes to personal injury claims to intellectual property theft, the firm had landed a flurry of lawsuits. Being a high-performing associate, Marco got a thick slice of the action.

He looked down at his desk. A sea of papers and files submerged every square inch of the wooden surface. Nights and weekends had been consumed to flesh out every detail of every case that came to him. When the annual bonus was handed out, he got his payoff. Fair reward for countless hours of effort.

Marco spent his entire bonus on his daughter’s birthday gift. A eleven carat diamond necklace. The platinum chain was slimmer than a needle. The pendant was a butterfly, both its wings sparkling with stunning brightness. Delicate. Feminine. Graceful. The perfect gift. Julia was worth every penny. Marco could picture her leap into the air with delight when she laid her eyes on that beauty. All those long hours at the office seemed worth it.

He picked up his new purchase and grinned the rest of his way home. He took up position behind the couch, a few feet from the front door. His left hand slid behind his back, and clasped the blue case enclosing the necklace. He waited.

Half an hour passed, still no sign of Julia. Marco paced up and down. He checked his watch. 6:30 pm. He considered calling her, but decided against it.

Fifteen minutes later, the door bell rang.

Marco skipped ahead and had the door open in a flash. Julia wore a plain yellow top and faded blue jeans. As usual, she had no makeup. But her eyes had a twinkle. A spark that Marco hadn’t got tired of seeing for twenty five years since his daughter was born.

“Hi dad.” She said, and brushed past him.

“Hi.” Marco turned to see her rushing towards her room. “Wait a minute…I have something for you.”

Julia paused, “What’s up?” Her cell phone beeped and she turned her attention towards it.

“Come here a minute.” Marco said.

“Ha?” Julia didn’t look up from her phone. Her fingers deftly pushed some keys.

“I know your birthday is few days away.” Marco said. “But I couldn’t contain myself. I got your gift early.”

Julia glanced up. “That’s nice.” Her phone beeped again. “I have to leave in a hurry.”

“Put that phone away, and take a look at this.” Marco said. “Are you ready?”

“Uh-huh.” Julia mumbled.

Marco brought his hand in front of him. At a deliberate pace, he undid the latch and opened the case, inch-by-inch.

“Here it is.” He revealed the necklace. The wings of the butterfly pendant shone under his eyes. “Happy twenty-fifth birthday.”

Julia studied the necklace. “Nice, nice. This is cool.”

Marco watched his daughter closely. She eyed the necklace for a moment longer. Then, her cell phone rang. She answered it instantly. “Yeah sure, I’ll be there in five minutes.”

She looked at her father. “Thanks, dad. I got to head out now.”

Marco’s eyes lowered. His face fell. “Wait, don’t you want to try it on…”

The front door swung shut. She was gone. Marco shook his head. He slid the necklace back in the case and snapped the lid shut. An ache grew at the pit of his stomach.

“She doesn’t even care.” He whispered to himself.

*******

Joey drained the last sip from his coffee-stained mug. It was his fourth cup for the night. A beep sounded from the digital clock on his desk. 2:00 am. The file lying under his eyes rose eight inches tall, and ended higher than his coffee mug. Carrying it home from office had been more strenuous than doing biceps at the gym. He had read every page. Twice.

After analyzing all the necessary information, he had prepared his report. A concise ten page summary of everything that his boss needed to know about the case. The life of a paralegal was laborious. But Joey was good at his job. He would wager every cent in his savings account that no useful detail had escaped him.

He read his own report again. It was in simple language, with short sentences that got right to the point. Just the way the boss liked it. His boss was a smarty pants associate, who was on the fast track to becoming a partner in the firm. It was Joey’s job to ensure the boss had access to all the information when he needed it. And Joey knew his boss would be pleased with his research. The report was indexed. The key points were highlighted. A bulleted summary was provided at the end for quick reference.

Satisfied that there were no errors, Joey turned off the lights. He slipped into bed with the hint of a smile on the corner of his lips. He could already hear the words of praise from his boss.

The next morning, Joey strode into the Law Offices of Peterson & Peterson at precisely 8:00 am. His navy blue shirt had been thoroughly ironed. He held his report in his right hand. He sat in his cubicle and waited.

Joey checked his watch for the second time in two minutes. 8:15 am. It was unlike his boss to be late. Joey hovered in the corridor.

At 8:30 am, Marco finally bustled into the office.

Joey sprung forward, clutching his report. “Hey Marco.”

Marco turned and offered a barely perceptible nod. He continued walking.

“I did the research on the Johnson vs Green case. Here is my report.” Joey extended the report towards his boss. Marco took it and nodded. Without a word, he entered his private cabin.

Joey swallowed. “I think you’ll find all the relevant details in there…”

The door to Marco’s office swung shut. Joey stared at it. He clenched his fist.

“He doesn’t give a shit.” Joey muttered.

*******

Alex brought out a clean cloth and wiped the golden surface of his saxophone till it was spotless. The instrument had cost him close to three thousand dollars. For a struggling musician with no steady source of income, that was a fortune.

He inhaled deeply and exhaled slowly. He would need his lungs to last all day. He had rehearsed day after day, night after night. Every tune in his planned routine had been perfected. He was ready.

The summer fair was a popular annual event in the city. There was art, sculpture, stand-up comedy, food, and god knows what else. For the first time, Alex had the chance to perform at the fair. He set his heart to entertain the public.

At 9:00 am, he began playing. He hit the right notes from the outset. He had a spot on the footpath somewhere between the food stalls and sculpture displays. On his table, he had placed a bunch of his CDs, hoping that music lovers would listen to him and make an impulse buy.

Few people began to stroll around the fair. Some went to the food stalls, some went to check out the art. Alex didn’t have much of an audience, but he played with gusto.

By lunch time, the place was teeming with people. The food stalls had long lines. People thronged to buy trinkets and pottery and other stuff. A few had even acquired a painting or two. But hardly any one stopped to listen to the melodious sounds emanating from Alex’s saxophone.

Nevertheless, Alex played on. He poured his energy into his favorite Beethoven composition. With missing a single beat, he hit the crescendo of the piece. He exhaled and looked up. No one was listening. He saw people haggling for prices or chewing on hot dogs. He couldn’t believe it. Surely, someone there could appreciate a Beethoven piece.

Two men stopped next to his table. Hanging from their shoulders were leather brief-cases with a small plack stitched on them that read ‘Law Offices of Peterson & Peterson’. Alex felt a glimmer of hope that they had heard him play and wanted CDs. He moved towards them.

“See you at the office, Joey.” One man said, and walked away. The man he called Joey wore a navy blue shirt that didn’t have any creases. He chewed a piece of gum.

“Hello sir,” Alex smiled. “These CDs are for only 3 bucks each. Would you like to…”

Joey raised a hand and shook his head. He walked a couple of paces ahead. He paused, turned his head and spat out his gum on the concrete, right next to where Alex had left his saxophone. Then he marched off on his way.

Alex gazed after him. His mouth hung open. His cheeks turned red.

“Nobody fuckin’ cares.” He said aloud.

*******

Julia took a taste of the pasta sauce. It was tangy, without being spicy. It was not too thick and not too watery. Just the way her boyfriend liked it. She mixed in the penne pasta and turned her attention to the stir-fried vegetables. She checked the clock. 9:00 pm. The feast would be ready in time.

She had to change two trains to reach her boyfriend’s place, on the other side of town. The side of town looked down upon by upper-middle class people, such as big shot lawyers like her father.

But Julia loved that quaint little apartment that Alex rented. Even though, the whole apartment was no larger than her bedroom back home. Even though, the apartment had dusty floors, patchy paint on the walls and not enough ventilation.

She loved it because of all the time she had spent there with Alex. Poor fellow struggled to make his rent. But, she saw the creativity in him. He composed songs that were delightful in their honesty. Alex was so simple at heart. Not like those nose-in-the-air, ass-licking associates at the Law Offices of Peterson and Peterson, who worked with her father.

Today was a big day for Alex since he was performing at the fair. Julia wanted to surprise him with a scrumptious meal when he reached home. She had a set of keys to his apartment and had been in there for over two hours, cooking.

Julia had put the lessons she learned during cooking classes to good use. The pasta sauce was made from fresh tomatoes and hand-picked spices. She placed it at the centre of the table. Next to it was the stir-fry in a crystal bowl. On the side was a newly acquired bottle of red wine. In the fridge, the desert lay waiting. Lemon custard and a freshly baked chocolate cake that she had labored all day over. In fact, she had the spent most of last week, planning every last detail of this meal.

She put out two sets of plates, napkins, knives and spoons. She stood back and admired her handiwork. She could foresee the look of excitement on Alex’s face when he walked in and took a look at the dinner. She smiled.

Half an hour later, Alex hadn’t returned. Julia re-heated the food. She walked back and forth.

At 10:30 pm Alex, staggered into the apartment. Julia rushed towards him. “Hi baby. What took you so long? How was the fair?”

Alex blinked. “Umm...it was okay.”

“I made you dinner.” She smiled. “Come, let’s eat.” She took his hand.

But Alex wriggled free. “I’m not so hungry.”

A distinct smell originated from him. Julia knew that smell. “Have you been drinking?”

“Umm…no.” Alex kicked off his shoes. “Maybe, just a little.” He stumbled towards his room.

“Don’t you want to eat…” Julia began.

There was no response. She went to his room and found her musician boyfriend, slumped on the floor, sound asleep and starting to snore.

She put her hands on her hips. A scowl covered her face.

“He doesn’t care.” She let out a shriek.

*******

More on Happiness

Happiness is a favorite subject of mine, which I frequently contemplate upon. All of us constantly want to be happy. All of our activities, our pursuit of a successful career, a healthy body, an ideal relationship, an abundance of wealth or fame – are all directed searches for this fleeting state of happiness. Yet, it keeps eluding us. Even if we get what we think will make us happy, the feeling disappears before we know it.

As a deviation from the norm, this post will be echoing another person’s thoughts rather than my own. The person in question is spiritual guide, psychotherapist and Jesuit priest, Anthony De Mello. Here is what he had to say:

“Recall the kind of feeling you have when someone praises you; when you are applauded and approved. Contrast this with the kind of feeling that arises within you when you look at a beautiful sunset or read a book or watch a movie that you thoroughly enjoy.

Understand that the first type of feeling comes from self-glorification and self-promotion. It is a worldly feeling. The second comes from contentment and self-fulfillment. It is a soul feeling.

Here is another contrast: Recall the kind of feeling you have when you succeed, when you have made it, when you win a game or bet or argument, when you get that job offer, or college admission. Contrast it with the kind of feeling you get when really enjoy the activity that you are currently doing, when you so absorbed in the action that you lose track of time. Once again, notice the qualitative difference between the worldly feeling and the soul feeling.

Yet another contrast: Remember what you felt like when you had power, when you were the boss, when people looked up to you or when you were popular. Contrast that with the feeling of companionship, the times you simply enjoyed a conversation with a friend or group of friends in which there was fun and laughter.

Having done this, attempt to understand the true nature of worldly feelings, namely feelings of self-promotion and self-glorification. They are meant to appeal to your ego. They are not natural. They are invented by your mental conditioning. You are trained to believe if you succeed, win, have power, get applauded, then you should feel great. These feelings do not produce the nourishment and happiness that is produced when one contemplates Nature, or enjoys the company of a friend, a good book or movie or enjoys one’s work.

Then observe yourself during the course of a day or week and think how many of your actions are performed, how many activities you engaged in that were driven by your desire for attention, approval, fame, popularity, success, or power. And take a look at people around you. Is there a single one of them who has not become addicted to these worldly feelings, who does not hunger for them? When you see this, you will understand how people attempt to gain the world and in the process lose their soul.”